Ideas for Personal Vows

To love, honour and….. [not obey]

When it comes to wedding vows the only limit really is your imagination. Having said that, some couples prefer to adhere to the somewhat traditional, while others find writing personal vows incredibly intimate and romantic.

Either way, there are a lot of ideas for you here if you’re seeking inspiration to write your own wedding vows. These are vows I have collected from various places. So, use them to create your own.

In the last wedding I did the Groom wrote his Bride a poem. It was incredibly intimate, they had been together for 8 years before getting married. It was a piece of writing this Bride will always cherish.

This exercise should be fun not stressful so sit somewhere quiet, turn off your phone, grab a coffee and have a read. If you need any help I am always here.

Make these vows yours…

______________, I take you to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife/spouse. Before these witnesses I vow to love you and care for you as long as we both shall live.


I take you, with all your faults and strengths, as I offer myself to you with all my faults and strengths. I will help you when you need help and turn to you when I need help. I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.



I love you, _______________. You are my best friend. Today I give myself to you in marriage. I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you, and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle.


______________, I take you to be my husband/wife/spouse/partner in marriage from this time onward, to join with you and to share all that is to come, to be your faithful husband/wife/partner, to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond; a commitment made in love, kept in faith, and eternally made new.

“You are my favourite person, and I choose you to be my partner in life. I vow to take you as my wife/husband/spouse/partner in marriage.

My heart is yours. Will you exchange your heart for mine? Will you be my family?”


I promise to love you in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when our love is simple, and when it is an effort. I promise to cherish you, and to always hold you in highest regard. These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life. 


Because of you, I laugh, I smile, I dare to dream again. I look forward with great joy to spending the rest of my life with you, caring for you, nurturing you, being there for you in all life has for us, and I vow to be true and faithful for as long as we both shall live.

Let us marry today. We belong to each other, so today, we’ll declare it.

We’ll be together, and our lives will give balance to each other and form a catalyst to bring out the awesomeness in you and I.

We will be advocates for each other, to lend a helping hand. To mark a challenge to meet, or even just to stand by with understanding and approval.

We will work goodness, not just in each other’s lives, but we will strive to nurture goodness to our loved ones, our community, and our home.

Our loyalty to each other will be tempered by a commitment to live by a melding of truth, grace and admiration, throughout our lives, both in winters and summers.

When couples want to write their own vows, I recommend only about 1 – 2 paragraphs. Anymore than that it can be hard to get through if you are a shy or very emotional person.

Honestly you are welcome to write as much as you want but about 2 paragraphs is just nice.

I hope this post helps you and your partner with ideas when writing your own vows. Please contact me if you would like anything clarified or if you have any questions.

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It has lots of ideas of;

  • readings
  • ideas for custom vows
  • inspiration for making your ceremony different

I put together this eBook to help you choose a reading and create your own vows.